Shadow Relationships and How to Avoid Them
What happens when we create relationships from our shadow?
What happens to those relationships when we begin to truly face and work with our own shadows?
Is there a difference between toxic relationships and shadow relationships?
These questions and more are answered in the book, Shadow Relationships and How to Avoid Them.
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The Shadow, it means many things to many people, and each person’s interpretation of it is correct. This may seem a strange way to start a book that is focused on helping to illuminate our relationships from a shadow perspective, however, it is still true. The key thing to remember is that you created your shadow, as has every other person. No one has the inherent right to question or belittle anything that you have created for yourself.
Those aspects of ourselves that we call “Shadow” are those aspects of our personality that we as individuals deem “not good”. In order for us to say that something is not good, requires a judgment. A personal judgement that we make on ourselves due to a plethora of reasons. Some of these reasons are related to our social environment, our personal experience and other learned behaviors.. I have had many conversations with people who talk to me about how some individuals are DARK and others are LIGHT – what a crock. It is all energy. Energy just IS. The entire concept of Light being somehow innately GOOD and Dark being innately BAD is dreamed up by individuals and groups who wish to control large masses of people and take people’s power away. Here is an example I really like.
A particular person grows up in a home where to be compassionate and sensitive is considered a “problem”. As a child the compassion that the child showed was repressed, punished, etc. We are not talking about child rearing right now – so as an adult this person put compassion in their shadow – or – that place where we put things that we do not wish to present to the world!